nervium asked: Please— I must know— Where did you get that -lovely- chest harness? I've been searching around for something similar; black with white trim, and can't seem to find anything quite as eyepleasing. Delicious blog, by the way. B)
Hi! Thanks! Glad you like the blog. :3
I got the harness from RoB! The particular one I have is here. They have a tooon of other great stuff too. Check ‘em out!
So here’s a little companion writeup for this post of Ma’am’s. A little late! D:
Ma’am fucked me and it was great. :3
As Ma’am says in her writeup, I’m pretty into anal play. I do a lot by myself and enjoy it a lot. I like plugs!
What I haven’t done a lot of is anal play with a partner! Despite all my love of butt stuff, I’ve never really be able to enjoy prostate stimulation much because I find it really difficult and awkward to do to myself. Even with fancy toys and massagers ‘n stuff. ._.
Ma’am was the first person to help me feel what it’s like! A few months ago we decided to play a little with 2 plugs that I have. A little glass one and a big heavy metal nJoy one. >:3
The magic happened with me on all fours, doggy style with my face buried into the bed. Ma’am grabbed the handle of that nJoy plug and just moved it around a little and slowly fucked me with it and I MELTED. When Ma’am started moving it, the shape and weight of the plug hit exactly the right spot. It felt amazing. I’d never dealt with that kind of sensation before! So intense. To the point that I’d have to take a couple of breaks and let the feeling go away a little bit before it became too sensitive.
I didn’t come, or get close to it really, but I definitely didn’t care. Nothing else has ever made me make such outrageously slutty noises before. .__.
Or since! Until Ma’am fucked me. :3
Being fucked with a strapon was a much different feeling again from playing with the plug. This time there were only little snatches of that same prostate stimulation feeling, but in addition there were so many other sensations I love just as much.
She fucked me from behind at first, then sort of missionary on my back, legs in the air.
I loved feeling Ma’am’s body moving against mine, her hips fucking into me and her hands grabbing my waist from behind. when I laid on my back I got to feel her weight on me and wrap my legs around her to draw her in deep. >:3
I needed to take it a little more slowly for a while then, so she laid back, and I climbed on top of her where I could ride and go at my own pace a little. Doing that and feeling her hands on my hips and belly and grabbing and spanking me when I turned around for her was just magic. Even better was looking down at her enjoying herself so much. All smiles. :3
Again I didn’t get close to coming, or even stay hard throughout most of it, but the sensation of it was just toooo good. and now I want it again so much. Which is something Ma’am is um, very pleased about. :3
hush-me-now asked: I just discovered your blog and it is wonderful. I have a strong love of bdsm, specifically bondage predominantly as a sub. My loving girlfriend of 6 months has expressed interest in tying me up, but we've both agreed it requires a lot of trust and she isn't ready to try it. She is ok with me pursuing self bondage, even in front of her, but she won't participate. We communicate well, but it keeps coming back to the same point. I don't want to pressure her in any way, but I'm not sure what to do.
Hi! Thanks for the kind words! :3
Regarding your question, It’s not easy to identify what the issue is just based on the information you’ve given, it could very well be something much more personal than anything I can help with. Here’s my thoughts on some difficulties Ma’am and I have experienced though.
In my personal experience (and I know Ma’am’s as well), tying someone up can be a really intimidating prospect. There’s a lot of factors to that.
Safety is a big one, particularly with things like rope bondage. There’s so much to learn and be aware of, cues to watch out for and bad practices to avoid! Nobody wants to hurt their partner (non-consensually, by accident) and that can be a really big worry even among people experienced with bdsm.
The other big concern that springs to mind for me is the enjoyment of your partner. There’s a lot of pressure on the dominant partner to be the crafter of the scene. To know exactly what needs to happen and what to do. How to tie or restrain or apply sensation and make their submissive happy. (or consensually unhappy, heh.) That’s a lot of responsibility! And it can feel pretty overwhelming and unsexy if you’re not at ease.
Perhaps try to keep things simple. If she’s comfortable, It could be helpful to simple restraints like leather cuffs and quicksnaps so you can be released quickly if you need to. It should be relaxed and playful! You want to give her the opportunity to interact with bondage in a nice, non threatening way so she can build her confidence.
Hope this helps!
it’s like, okay, right now i have zero desire to actually pursue having sex with anyone
but if i just had some cute subby person i could tie up and leave on the floor beside me while i went about my day and could occasionally reach down to tease at their nipples/genitals/mouth and get them really worked up but not do much about it, just for a few hours here and there, that would be fun
sometimes it would be nice tickly lingering teasing, sometimes abrupt pain… . wtvr
This is the most noble goal. ._.